Thursday, July 12, 2007

sorry so long gone

Sorry I've not blogged lately. I know everyone is hanging on my every word! Daniel has been so busy (Yea!) that I don't have as much time on the computer to play since he works at home now!

We are ALMOST done with our part of the paperwork pregnancy! Our doctor's exams have held us up. We had to have physical exams and I failed the hearing exam in my right ear! It was because the room was loud and the nurse didn't know what she was doing with the machine. So because of that and Daniel having a previous surgery (tonsils taken out when he was a child) we had to get a letter written from the doctor saying he thinks we wil still be able to raise the child with these issues!

So we have gotten birth certificates, marriage license, passports, physical exams, employment verification letter, NON-employment verification letter (for me!), financial statements, application letters, and police reports all done. Our home study is now officially complete. It was lots of fun for us, I am actually sad it's over. We made trips to Stillwater and I always love road trips!

What's next for us: our dossier is now being sent to be certified by the Secretary of State. Then it will be sent to the Chinese Consulate here in the states to be authenticated. Noramally we would have to do ALL THIS which is very tedious and time consuming, and if you don't do it right, you are in trouble. But we hired a dossier assistance program to take this part over and I am very thankful! We are also waiting on our form from the government that says we are cleared to adopt. This is what everyone waits on lastly, and our was just mailed yesterday. Your home study has to be complete before you can apply for this. It is said to take around 3 months, we are hoping not!

So when we get the form back, and our dossier is certified and authenticated, we will be ready to send it to China. We pray it will all be ready by September. From that point, we will begin our WAIT, which is currently around 2 years.

We are excited to can't wait to hold Hope in our arms, no matter how long the wait is! Until our day, I will keep myself busy reading other people's blogs who are adopting, and watching their videos, which are extremely addictive! Beware if you start this, you may find yourself up till all hours of the night!

Thursday, June 7, 2007

Special meeting in Beijing...

Here is an update on China: they are WAY behind, as I've said before. Current wait time is around 2 years. People are getting their babies that were logged in to China in November 2005. And we are not even logged in yet! So this is making China look bad, and they don't like to look bad! Especially with the Olympics coming up in Beijing next year.

We heard they had a special meeting in Beijing to discuss how to get more babies ready for adoption. Currently, not ALL the orphanages in China adopt babies out. Only certain ones that have prepared paperwork on the babies. Now, they are running out of babies in these orphanages! They need more babies ready! Praise the Lord. We are sending a message to them...we want your precious babies that you don't want!

So here is my THEORY....Something is going to happen, a miracle from God. And lots of people are going to be hired to get paperwork on thousands of babies and they are going to catch back up. I do not believe it will take 2-3 years to get Hope. I never have believed that. And here is a neat thing...I believe that Hope and thousands of other babies will come from an orphanage that never was before in the adoption process. Saved by the grace of God, picked from an obsecure orphanage, and destined for a family of love on the other side of the world. Isn't God awesome?

So pray and believe with us for these things! Miracles. For all these babies! Who knows, maybe one might find their way to your heart and home!

not your average adoption...

We got our passports in! We had heard rumors that even after paying the expedite fee (which we did) that passports were taking 4 months! I told Daniel, "we are going to get our passports in soon, and it will be a confirmation of God's favor on us." And what happened not 3 days later....passports! And today I got my birth certificate. FROM LOUISIANA!!! These were both things that I thought could hold us up for months!

So here is what is left for us...one more home study appointmet, Daniel to design our family photo pages, our physical exam forms to be completed, and then waiting for the special form from the US government that says we are approved to bring a child home from China!

We have moved at an incredible pace. Nothing stressful. Everything has gone perfect!!! We take no credit, it is ALL God's grace on us and His divine favor! No matter what the time frame is for the average person, we don't go by that. We are not average! When you have God on your side, and you are trusting in Him and believing He is in control, His timeframe is perfect!! Thank you Lord.

Tuesday, May 22, 2007

Ni Hao Kai Lan- a new show coming to Nick Jr. that is about a Chinese American girl!

Would you like some nuts with that photo?

Why is it so hard to get a passport photo? If anyone needs to get one, go to a REAL portrait studio like MotoPhoto or something, NOT Walgreen's or Kinkos. Sometimes I feel like nobody cares anymore. After arriving at Walgreen's to take our photos, the man behind the counter (which happened to be the manager) grabbed a digital camera and proceeded to have us stand in front of a "make-shift" background amidst the snacks and film for sale! At that point, Daniel said, his expectations were lowered. So when our photos came out pathetic, orange and hazy, Daniel wasn't surprised. But it made me mad. We paid good money for this. Don't advertise you make passport photos if you can't produce a decent photo!

So I kindly asked the man to retake Daniel's (his was fuzzier than mine) and explained to him the reason why we came here was to get a professional photo for a government document and this wasn't going to do. I didn't want a retake, I had already decided the peach polo I chose for the photo shoot was a poor choice and made my auburn hair look orange. There was no hope for mine. But Daniel is always such a perfect subject, we had to get re-takes.

Daniel was so nice that he told me I could get a retake somewhere else. I later went to Kinko's to get a "better" photo. At least the lighting was better. It HAD to be better. So after I looked at my new photo, I inquired about the "heavenly glow" upon my forehead. "Oh, that's just the lighting," the worker said. Exactly! I thought! The lighting! Shouldn't that be the MAIN THING when getting photos made! She said, "It'll do." She rudely snapped, "I can take it again, if you want." Yes please. But then we realized it was the lighting and we were at its mercy.

Daniel says it's just passport photos. My theory is, we paid good money for a professional, or at least adequate photo, and none were either of those! It brings back bad memories when Chantel and I hired a DJ for a Karaoke party years ago and totally got taken advantage of by the guy (because we are girls)! It's hard to find decent help, right? I just wanted a passport photo. One that didn't make me look like a orange or washed out!

Besides, our dossier guidelines said to send extra passport photos to China which "they will look at while they are placing a child with you." So I wanted them to be perfect, NOT PERFECTLY PERFECT IN APPEARANCE, just perfectly representing us....happy, healthy US! Daniel's photo looked like someone MADE him take the picture and that he's not a cooperative person. His second one is better, but still not representative of HAPPY, DISNEY LOVIN Daniel. Maybe we need to watch the Disney videos before we go take the photos!

So when we get them scanned in, I will post them for all to see and you can judge for yourself. Lesson learned, go to a REAL photo studio with REAL lights when you want a photo. And don't take bad pictures home. Last night, between Walgreen's and Kinkos we spent about $55! And we have nothing good to show for it.

Oh, well, at least we are sending in our passport applications today. Of course, they are EXTREMELY backed up and say they are being hit with an unprecedented number of passport applications, so we are paying the expedite fee. We are still waiting for my birth certificates from LA. Daniel's from Texas got back in about a week!! Daniel says I should've been born in Texas!

Even so, I am so happy that we are where we are. Things are moving along VERY quickly in the paperwork process. And at Kinkos the two men there waiting for help had both been to China and one of them had adopted 2 girls from there and showed me photos! Thank you God for the encouragement. Hope is worth it all!

Thursday, May 17, 2007

Without a family, without a home...

More joy in walking with God through the fire, than on beaches without Him!

Today we had our second of four home study visits. Questions such as why are we adopting, why China, how we met, strengths and weaknesses, etc. It was fun! We are having so much fun. At the same time, it is still so overwhelming and emotional for me. I start reading information to Daniel about the adoption and I can't make it through the sentences without crying. We are so amazed right now that we are actually doing this. It feels so good. To know that God is using us to change Hope's life. The more we read about adoption, we actually wonder why we didn't do it sooner. It just seems so natural to us. Here is an excerpt from John Piper, a father who in his fifties adopted a child with his wife who had the desire for years! It touched me so greatly, I wanted to share it:

• Adoption is from God. Ephesians 1:5 says, "In love he predestined us for adoption through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will to the praise of his glorious grace." So adoption was part of God's plan. It was his idea, his purpose. It was not an afterthought. He didn't discover one day that against his plan and foreknowledge humans had sinned and orphaned themselves in the world, and then come up with the idea of adopting them into his family.

• Consider adopting children into your family as an overflow of the inheritance that you have in Christ from God, your Father.

• We adopt a child not for our own glory but for God's glory. God adopted us for the praise of the glory of his grace. Therefore we adopt for the praise of the glory of his grace. The questions you ask as you ponder adopting a child who needs a family are not first questions of feasibility or affordability. The questions you ask first are: Is my heart fixed on glorifying the grace of God? Is my aim in this to make the grace of God look glorious? Is Christ the center and goal of this decision?

• We dare only adopt children if we have a firm faith in the all-sufficiency of God's future grace. The pain of adopting and rearing children is sure. It will come in one form or the other. Should that stop us from having children or adopting children? No. The self-centered world "cuts their losses" by having few or no children. But we grieve, hoping that they will see that the grace of God is sufficient for every new day no matter how difficult, and that there is more true joy in walking with God through fire, than walking on beaches without him.

• What matters is not that we do all we might have done or all we dreamed of doing in this life, but that while we live, we live by faith in future grace and walk in the path of love. The times are in God's hands, not ours.

Isn't that beautiful? I know that not everyone is where we are right now. Last year, I wasn't here. But God has brought me to this place and it is so lovely and pure and fulfilling that I must share with you these things as I walk down this new path in my life. I hope it touches people along the way. And I hope that others will decide to adopt as well as God speaks it to them. Hope.